FOCUS on Foster Families - For Caregivers

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

Understand where the child is coming from

Trauma and loss are strong feelings that affect many foster youth and can often have an affect on behavior.

Understand where the child is coming from

Audra Langley, Ph.D. UCLA TIES for Families

Key Point:
Trauma and loss are strong feelings that affect many foster youth and can often have an affect on behavior.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

Discipline and consequences

Set up clear expectations for youth and be consistent when it comes to consequences

Discipline and consequences

Erin Dornan, Psy.D. - UCLA TIES for Families

Key Point:
Set up clear expectations for youth and be consistent when it comes to consequences

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

When you have an argument with your foster child

Parents should be positioned as the leaders of their household. Remember to lead by example even when you feel challenged or hurt.

When you have an argument with your foster child

Fawnda Sandoval, LCSW, Department of Child and Family Services

Key Point:
Parents should be positioned as the leaders of their household. Remember to lead by example even when you feel challenged or hurt.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

Do not take child reactions personally

Kids may have negative reactions to the adjustment of living in a new home.

Do not take child reactions personally

Fawnda Sandoval, LCSW, Department of Child and Family Services

Key Point:
Kids may have negative reactions to the adjustment of living in a new home.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Understanding and responding to challenging behaviors

Uneven development: Sometimes our teen acts like a little kid

Kids may have negative reactions to the adjustment of living in a new home.

Uneven development: Sometimes our teen acts like a little kid

Judy, Foster-Adoptive Parent

Key Point:
Kids may have negative reactions to the adjustment of living in a new home.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

Skills to build your family

The roller coaster ride of adoption

Brenda shares her advice for managing tough emotions during the adoption process

The roller coaster ride of adoption

Brenda - Foster/adoptive Parent

Key Point:
Brenda shares her advice for managing tough emotions during the adoption process

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

Be a mirror that focuses on the ways they are wonderful

Effective caregiver/youth communication can help young people identify their own strengths and feel heard by those around them.

Be a mirror that focuses on the ways they are wonderful

Fawnda Sandoval, LCSW, Department of Child and Family Services

Key Point:
Effective caregiver/youth communication can help young people identify their own strengths and feel heard by those around them.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

GUIDE: Preparing for visits with birth parents

Strategies like creating a predictable plan and communicating the order of events can be very helpful when it comes to preparing children for situations like visiting a birth parent.

GUIDE: Preparing for visits with birth parents

Erin Dornan, PsyD, TIES for Families UCLA

Key Point:
Strategies like creating a predictable plan and communicating the order of events can be very helpful when it comes to preparing children for situations like visiting a birth parent.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

DEMONSTRATION: Responding to behavior problems

Problem solving around difficult behavior and setting realistic expectations is an important part of creating a positive home environment.

DEMONSTRATION: Responding to behavior problems

Scripted

Key Point:
Problem solving around difficult behavior and setting realistic expectations is an important part of creating a positive home environment.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

DEMONSTRATION: Preparing for a visit with a birth parent

Strategies like creating a predictable plan and communicating the order of events can be very helpful when it comes to preparing children for situations like visiting a birth parent.

DEMONSTRATION: Preparing for a visit with a birth parent

Scripted

Key Point:
Strategies like creating a predictable plan and communicating the order of events can be very helpful when it comes to preparing children for situations like visiting a birth parent.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

DEMONSTRATION: Holding a family meeting

Setting aside a weekly (or monthly) time for a family meeting is a great way to involve everyone in new plans or problem solve around recent challenges.

DEMONSTRATION: Holding a family meeting

Scripted

Key Point:
Setting aside a weekly (or monthly) time for a family meeting is a great way to involve everyone in new plans or problem solve around recent challenges.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

DEMONSTRATION: Playing with a young child

Play is an important part of your child's development and building a positive caregiving relationship.

DEMONSTRATION: Playing with a young child

Scripted

Key Point:
Play is an important part of your child's development and building a positive caregiving relationship.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

DEMONSTRATION: Dealing with a tantrum

Communication and problem solving are key skills related to dealing with a tantrum or other challenging behavior.

DEMONSTRATION: Dealing with a tantrum

Scripted

Key Point:
Communication and problem solving are key skills related to dealing with a tantrum or other challenging behavior.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

I gave my foster child her childhood back

Set up clear expectations for youth and be consistent when it comes to consequences

I gave my foster child her childhood back

Brenda Foster/Adoptive Parent

Key Point:
Set up clear expectations for youth and be consistent when it comes to consequences

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Skills to build your family

Challenge of being a foster to adopt parent

Remember to reach out for support, you are not alone

Challenge of being a foster to adopt parent

Erin Dornan, Psy.D. - UCLA TIES for Families

Key Point:
Remember to reach out for support, you are not alone

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advocating for and accessing services

Advocating for and accessing services

Assessing medical and developmental challenges

It is important to explore the resources available for idenfitying medical or developmental challenges in youth.

Assessing medical and developmental challenges

Erin Dornan, Psy.D. - UCLA TIES for Families

Key Point:
It is important to explore the resources available for idenfitying medical or developmental challenges in youth.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advocating for and accessing services

When to turn to professional help

Be open to seeking out help from others for yourself or any of your family members.

When to turn to professional help

Karen Rathburn, PhD, TIES for Families, South Bay

Key Point:
Be open to seeking out help from others for yourself or any of your family members.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advocating for and accessing services

Advocating for your child in all of their settings

As a foster caregiver, you have navigated a complex system and achieved your goal. These skills will help you advocate for your child's goals.

Advocating for your child in all of their settings

Audra Langley, PhD, TIES for Families, UCLA

Key Point:
As a foster caregiver, you have navigated a complex system and achieved your goal. These skills will help you advocate for your child's goals.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advocating for and accessing services

The importance of early intervention

Touching base with youth about how they are doing can help you stay on top of early warning signs and seek help when needed.

The importance of early intervention

Erin Dornan, PsyD, TIES for Families, UCLA

Key Point:
Touching base with youth about how they are doing can help you stay on top of early warning signs and seek help when needed.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advocating for and accessing services

Thank you message to caregivers

Being a caregiver can be challenging but there are resources available to help

Thank you message to caregivers

Taylor Dudley, Esq.- Alliance for Children's Rights

Key Point:
Being a caregiver can be challenging but there are resources available to help

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

Advice for foster parents

Annika and Maria explain the importance of patience as a foster parent or caregiver.

Advice for foster parents

Maria & Annika - UCLA Bruin Guardian Scholars, former foster youth

Key Point:
Annika and Maria explain the importance of patience as a foster parent or caregiver.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

You need to take it slowly

Be patient as youth adjust to your home and family routines.

You need to take it slowly

Annika, UCLA Guardian Scholar

Key Point:
Be patient as youth adjust to your home and family routines.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

One night I was crying and my foster mom just held me

Creating a positive caregiver/youth relationship is key to helping teens deal with tough emotions and challenging times.

One night I was crying and my foster mom just held me

Tiffany, Foster Youth, First Star UCLA Bruin Guardian Academy Student

Key Point:
Creating a positive caregiver/youth relationship is key to helping teens deal with tough emotions and challenging times.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

I use to hate everyone building trust took time

Building a relationship does not happen overnight. Remember to create an positive environment through open communication.

I use to hate everyone building trust took time

Sarah, Foster Youth, First Star UCLA Bruin Guardian Academy Student

Key Point:
Building a relationship does not happen overnight. Remember to create an positive environment through open communication.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills

Advice from foster and adoptive youth

Advice to foster parents from a current foster youth

Many foster youth have experienced big challenges, it is important for caregivers to be supportive and good role models.

Advice to foster parents from a current foster youth

Edwardo First Star UCLA Bruin Guardian Academy Student / foster youth

Key Point:
Many foster youth have experienced big challenges, it is important for caregivers to be supportive and good role models.

Focus Tools:
Use these worksheets to practice key FOCUS skills